Why is it a big deal when people go around apologizing for something they didn’t do? Why can’t we hear a story of how someone did something wrong to someone else and simply say “that’s a bummer,” instead of apologizing for something we neither did, nor had any involvement in, nor did we ever approve of?
People do this “apologize for nothing” when they want to look good in front of others, instead of simply doing the right thing in front of (or with nobody around) others. Actually doing the right thing takes work and sweat and risk, and often times involves you getting dirty or (Dear God Heaven forbid) actually bleeding a little bit (oh the horror). So why would you take those REAL LIFE chances of helping when you can just “apologize” for something that you didn’t even do. Apologizing for no reason is a type of Virtual Signalling- and all Patriarchal Christian Men of the West (and East) know that Virtue Signalling is for those with zero Real Virtue.
There are people in this life who wouldn’t help your pregnant wife change her tire in the middle of a snow storm with it being -10 degrees, with her all by herself (why was she out in the snowstorm, because she’s not scared to get work done) but they will go around apologizing for “slave owners” who mistreated people in a certain place at a certain time way in the past. And they will do this because they want to pretend to have virtue while they never take the real risks of virtue. And virtue can be lots of little virtuous acts or lots of large virtuous acts. But they all involve giving of yourself sacrificially to others. Coach the kids baseball team and you might win it all or you might win zero. But just to take that step takes virtue. Doing the right thing at work, even if it ultimately means you get fired takes virtue (courage of course being the most important virtue as I’ve mentioned before).
We are called as Christians to strive to live (to “practice”- earnestly trying to get better) so that any accusation against us publicly, is either a false one, or one that we’ve actually repented of before we were caught.
If you apologize for something you did not do or have a part in, you are bearing false witness. You are telling people that you had a hand in evil. IF you actually did do something publicly evil then by all means apologize publicly, but if you apologize for something you didn’t do- the only proper response is to give an actual apology for bearing false witness when you “apologized” last time.
Please, I beg you, live an actual virtuous life not a virtual signalling life. Be the one who cares for the lady broken down on the side of the road, instead of the fool spouting “Stand with Ukraine” gibberish that makes you “feel brave” while doing nothing of virtue (and yes I am fully onboard with American neutrality in Eastern European confrontations and wars, but if I had to choose between the sides- choosing Russia over Ukraine would be the easiest choice since not getting a Covid Jab).
It is okay to say that it is such a bummer when something bad happens you have no control over, and did not support. But saying that something IS wrong or IS a bummer, is far different than apologizing for nothing.
This site has much that you can learn from. It helps to know you are not the only one who actually lives in the real world, and is raising men of courage and women of grace, with real courageous beautiful- husband submitting women- as wives and mothers.
No Man of the West ever had an easy road. An easy road is for slaves and the weak. Don’t be weak, don’t be a slave. When something bad happens you can’t control say “it’s a bummer” and actually live radically virtuous when you can control it!